Mother’s Day is always a special time for me. Growing up my four siblings and I was raised by a single mother. I watched her struggle to provide but she ensured we always had what we needed. I would always say to myself that I would never struggle the way my mom did because I knew there was more to life. My mother struggle came from her NOT following her dreams and living the status quo. See my mother wanted to be a nurse but she never pursued it because she allowed the role of motherhood to take over her life. It wasn’t that she didn’t have support, but instead she wanted to be the “BEST’ mother ever.
What my mother didn’t realize is that in order for you to be the best mother you have to be the best you! Being the best her would have required her to follow her dreams. The short term sacrifice we would have had to make would have been longterm fulfillment in her life and ours.
My mother is a wonderful mom and I would not trade her for the world. She is one of my biggest supporters. It is because of her struggle that I am where I am today. I learned so much about being a mom from and ironically I learned how to follow my dreams.
A few days ago I attended Ryanns’ mother daughter tea at her school. Ryann was extremely excited to introduce her mom to her classmates and their moms (not that I don’t know them but she was excited lol). This time when Ryann introduced me she introduced me as Dr. Tammira Lucas. She was so proud to call me this. On the outside I smiled but on the inside I wanted to cry. Minutes before walking in her school I emailed my Chair person and told him that I am thinking of withdrawing because I haven’t moved forward with my proposal because it keep being rejected. I never realize that my 5 year old daughter was so proud of me and my accomplishments. I knew she was watching and she pretty much understood what mommy does but I never really knew she was that proud.
I realize that giving up is not an option. What message would I be sending to my daughter?
As you celebrate your day remember that your children are watching and the best memory you could ever give them is the memory of following your dreams. No matter how hard the obstacle is remember it’s just that an obstacle and eventually you will make it through strong!!
Don’t give up!