The Ultimate Guide to finding the PERFECT Mentor

The Ultimate Guide to finding the PERFECT Mentor


The Ultimate Guide to finding the perfect mentor

Hey Dreamers and Believers,

Over the last few weeks I have come across individuals that either don’t know the importance of having a mentor or don’t know where to start in getting a mentor.  Having a mentor(s) is crucial to your success in life, period. Mentors are there to guide you, provide you with constructive criticism, and connect you with resources and to people to help move you forward. Whether or not you’re starting a business, having a mentor is important.

I have several mentors, spiritual, business, relationship, that each helps me in various aspects of my life. They all serve a different purpose, but guide me towards my ultimate goal of progression and a well-rounded, successful life. When you have a mentor, you are afforded the opportunity to learn from someone who has already arrived to where you want to go. Mentors know exactly what it takes and what sacrifices need to be made to achieve your goals.

I cannot stress the important of having a mentor! Yet, I know it is not always easy to find one. It’s also good to know that all mentors aren’t created equally and it’s okay for you to be ‘choosy’ in finding one.

Use this guide to help you select the perfect mentor!

  1. Identify your weakness and areas you want to grow. You must be very transparent and honest with yourself. None of us are perfect. Knowing your weaknesses will allow you to determine who will be a good mentor to you. The key is to find someone who is excelling in the area(s) that you need the most help.


  1. Do your homework. Once you have identified your opportunities, you need to research individuals that are not only doing well in those areas, but are also in a position to help you. Your mentor doesn’t need to have the same exact end game as you, but you will want to find someone who has been through a similar journey as you. You need to learn as much as possible about your potential mentor before you make your approach.


If you have no clue on how to research possible mentors put yourself in a room with successful people and you will walk out with tons of possible mentors. Start researching events where the business professionals frequent! Also, tap into your existing network. There are probably people you are connected to right now that would be an awesome mentor. Utilize them!


  1. Ask! Once you have identified your ‘mentor- to- be’, you have to get them to sign up for the job! If this person is already in your network, inviting them to lunch or dinner is a great gesture and gives you the opportunity to explain to them your goals and, also, express your admiration for their success. This will open the conversation for you to ask them to be your mentor. If you do not know them personally, get to know them. Don’t be a stalker, but find out where they are and start making your face visible. Once they know who you are, then you can ask. Some mentors maybe celebrities and that’s fine. Research them until you can’t research anymore, this will help you mimic portions of their journey to apply them to your journey.


  1. Don’t let your mentor down. As they are guiding you remember they are mentoring you for FREE! They are providing you with free resources and taking the time (time is money) to help you. Don’t waste their time.


  1. Be a mentor. You know what it’s like to not have a mentor so ensure you are mentoring others. Pay it Forward.


If you didn’t think having a mentor was important before, hopefully I’ve conveyed the true importance of one or many!

One person could definitely mentor you in multiple areas, but it’s important for your wholeness that someone is guiding you in each sect of your life.

  1. Spiritual Mentor (This could be a pastor or minister.)
  2. Business Mentor (This could be someone that has excelled either in your industry or business period.)
  3. Peer Mentor (This is someone close in the journey with you that is doing exceptional things and can help you.)
  4. Relationship Mentor (Someone that can help you in your marriage or your journey to marriage/ embracing the single life.)
  5. Life Mentor (This is someone that has made a lot of mistakes in life and can help you avoid a few.)

Thank me later,

The Business Dr.

Tammira Lucas, MBA
Written by Tammira Lucas, MBA

The 2015 Small Business Innovator by Baltimore City Chamber of Commerce, Tammira Lucas is a Mompreneur who is quickly emerging as a trailblazer among professionals and a powerful voice for women teaching them Business, Balance and Babies. Tammira is the CEO The Business Dr. Consulting Firm, CO-Founder of Moms As Entrepreneurs, Author, Speaker, Philanthropist and Professor. Tammira has been featured on Forbes Top 10 Entrepreneurial Websites for Women, and 10 Best Career Sites for Women. The BOSS Network and Jet Magazine. As a mom, wife, and entrepreneur Tammira loves to help women/ moms jump hurdles to success while learning the art of balance, business and babies. Tammira has also been recognized by 92Q as one of 2014 Baltimore’s Top 30 Under 30 and Baltimore’s Fab list.

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