Being successful is the “IT” thing to do these days. Everyone is working hard to succeed. This is actually one of the better trends in the world today. Daily, the market is flooded with the new “how to be successful” conference, workshop, book, podcast etc. But is being successful really what it is cracked up to be? Does everyone really have the ideal life? Are people living their entrepreneurial dreams really happy?
I wanted to write on this topic because recently I encountered someone say how they wished they were “successful” like me! Not saying that I am not successful but I wanted to know what successful meant to them. What was my kind of successful? When I asked them they simply said you have it all: career, family and happiness. Honestly when the person said this to me I laughed. Clearly they missed the part about what it takes to “Have It All” and by no means do I feel like I “Have It All.” At every moment I realize that people are infatuated with success because they look at the material things that come with it but they don’t really understand what it takes to actually achieve your dreams.
What they don’t tell you about success at these conferences, workshops, books etc. is that success comes with a HUGE price. They don’t tell you that you will find yourself crying just as much as you are smiling. They don’t tell you that at various points in your journey you will be lonely. Not lonely because you loose your friends (you will loose friends), but lonely because you will find yourself working until the sun comes up, enduring days without sleep and questioning whether any of the work is worth it. They will not tell you that success comes with an investment and there will be many things you will have to sacrifice.
When I think about my journey to success, I think about how hard it is. I am married to a man that is an entrepreneur as well. Everything I go through on my journey is similar to what he goes through in his journey and we have to figure out how to balance both. If you aren’t married it’s a battle because 9 times out of 10 they will not understand your journey as an entrepreneur either. They won’t understand the long hours, huge investments and even larger sacrifices. Most people will not tell you that it’s hard and can really break you if you aren’t mentally prepared. As a mom there are times when my daughter is sick and I have to care for her while still trying to make a deadline. There are times I don’t get to see her for a week at a time without being out of town. These things aren’t easy and damn sure will bring a tear to your eye.
When you look at others and what they have accomplished you have to think about what it took to accomplish those things physically, mentally and emotionally. Before you wish you have what others have, think again! Ensure that you are preparing yourself mentally, physically and emotionally.
At then end of the day all that you worked for will definitely be worth the journey you have to take to achieve it!